"As the lily among thorns, so is my love among the
daughters." That is a scripture
from the second chapter of the Song of Solomon taken from the King James
Version of the bible. Every man should
find his lily among thorns. That unique
and special daughter of God who yearns for a man that is trusted by her
heavenly Father to have and to hold her for the remainder of their lives in
Christ. Proverbs chapter eighteen states,
"Whoso finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor of the
Lord." Every man should want the
favor of the Lord.
This blog post was motivated by four young ladies studying
at a Starbucks in San Antonio, Texas. I've
written this blog to reveal a spiritual route to the chapel which every woman should
consider while lonely and single. It's
not the only way but trust the process and you won't be disappointed. If you have no desire to live righteously or revere
monogamy in marriage, this blog post is not for you.
In 2009, an internet hacker named Jeff Moss was hired by the
U.S. Homeland Security Advisory Council and later became Chief Security Officer
for ICANN. It doesn't take a genius to
figure out how he got their attention. I
noted this incident because I believe great advice can come from someone who
has defeated what you're trying to defend.
If Honda Motors wants to prevent the theft of their vehicles it would be wise
to interview those who were apprehended after
the auto theft. What qualifies me to
speak on a topic of divine love? Well,
allow me to share some of my past so you will understand my present.
I've flown from the east coast to the west coast and made
stops in between which allowed me to meet some of the most beautiful,
intelligent and fun women on this planet.
Rolex on wrist, cologne on neck, dressed to impressed, smile on deck and
that was before the charm left my lips.
I remember spending a week in the Scottsdale, Arizona area. I believe God (and the devil) sent a lot of
beautiful women to that city. No matter
what city I visited I hacked the mind of many to charm the heart of all. I wasn't doing it purposely but out of
ignorance. When I was a teenager a man
in my neighborhood named Steve told me, "You are going to get a lot of
women because of them eyes you have little man." Yes, his message could have been different
but he is definitely a true prophet because his prophecy became a reality. 1 Corinthians 13:11
states, "When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child,
I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish
things." I apologize to the women I
have hurt and I forgive the women who have hurt me. My only regret thus far in life is that I
didn't follow Jesus sooner. I pray my perspective
coupled with the truth in the word of God enlightens those who no longer wish
to partake in relationships destined to fail from initial eye contact.
I remember the first time I saw my first puppy, a Rottweiler. I named him Keno. Before picking him up from the breeder I
purchased a book about Rottweiler's and sought counsel from owners of this
breed. I wanted to make sure I was
prepared to take care of him. I bathed
him, fed him, trained him, walked him, protected him, watched television with
him in my lap and took him on trips in my car.
I fell in love with my puppy. He
truly became my best friend. Keno died
before his third birthday. Why did that
happen to me? I did what I knew to
do. My point for sharing this story is
that I put more effort towards selecting my puppy than towards selecting a possible
life-long mate. None of my female
lovers died but it felt as if they did when our relationship fell short of lasting
forever. In time, I gave up on
love. I began dating without
emotion. Why would I risk getting hurt
or hurting someone? Instead of a spirit,
soul and body connection it became all physical. Premarital sex, dinner, movies, bars, weekend
getaways and many other thrills but nothing to establish a solid foundation. Beliefs, goals, passions, health concerns and
spirituality were not discussed. Nothing
to propose a potential marriage was established. I didn't know how to love myself or any woman
until I began following Jesus. By
reading and meditating on the scriptures I learned how to care for a daughter
of God. I don't want you to assume marriage
will organically happen, as I did. You must be intentional. Therefore,
the five points below will help you identify a honest, funny, humble and caring
man who's ready to love you the way Jesus loves the church as both of you do
the will of God.
First, the man who finds you will see you as his spiritual sister
because you share the same Father in heaven.
It is an important first step in establishing a relationship which is
pleasing to God. A man who allows Jesus
to live through him is a giver. He's a
man that loves unconditionally and selflessly.
If you date someone who doesn't share that perspective, you expose
yourself to receive what a man of the world has to give (or take). 2 Corinthians 6:14 says, "Be ye not
unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath
righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with
darkness?" Only trust what you
believe and only believe what you trust.
Second, blessed is the woman that waits upon the Lord. Be holy, obedient, pray, fast and ask God to
send the man he desires for you. That
doesn't mean sit at home or join every dating site. Study the bible word by word and scripture by
scripture to show yourself approved to God.
If a man doesn't come quickly or ever come, continue in fellowship with
the Lord without distraction. Let God
know he is number one in your life. I
believe he will give you what you have believed him for in prayer.
Third, only date for marriage. Otherwise it's called a friendship. It's not necessary to kiss several toads to
find a prince. If a dealership allows a
man to drive a car for free why in the H-E-Double L would he buy it? Set spiritual boundaries and don't get weary
in right doing. 1 John 1:6-7 says,
"If we say that we have fellowship with him, and walk in darkness, we lie,
and do not the truth: 7. but if we walk in the light, as he is in the
light, we have fellowship one with another, and the blood of Jesus Christ his
Son cleanses us from all sin." Ask
for forgiveness of your sins, humble yourself before God and resist falling
victim to the former lusts in your ignorance.
You are precious to God and he loves you very much.
Fourth, if you see bananas on an orange tree there is a
problem. Don't write it off as a
mistake. There is a reason why an error
is revealed to you. Confront him. Challenge him. Try his spirit. Let him go, straighten your halo and remain
patient. This is a marathon not a race. Ask God for discernment of the Holy Spirit. Judge a tree by the fruit it bear. Matthew 7:16 says, "You shall know them
by their fruits."
Fifth, don't wait until marriage to know what it means to be
a wife. A hospital will not hire you to
perform surgery on patients if you haven't graduated from medical school. Observe your parents. Ask questions of them and other married
couples. There is no "secret
sauce" but you can minimize potential mistakes by seeking wise
counsel. After obtaining revelation turn
it into revolution. Let your behavior emulate
that of a married woman. Walk like
one. Talk like one. Dress like one. I'm not sure what all that entails but it
beats being a sorority sister of Hoochie Phi Hoochie. Intentionally prepare yourself to become what
is beneficial for your soon-to-be husband.
Entertain and love yourself in the company of family and friends until
that man of God finds you. Remember that
scripture in the opening paragraph from Proverbs chapter eighteen that reads,
"Whoso finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor of the
Lord." That word of wisdom is
directed toward men which tells me the woman will be a wife when she is found,
not perfect, but doing the will of God.
God is so impressed with her that he calls her a "good thing". You are exactly that my sister!
The world may see my viewpoint as rules but a different term
is applied when it's an employer (policies and procedures). A different method of acceptance is
considered when it is the statutes that govern the country. It's only acceptable to adhere to rules when
it involves doing what the world views as important or justifiable. Don't be mislead. The book of Matthew chapter seven tells us,
"Enter ye in at the strait gate: for wide is the gate, and broad is the
way, that leads to destruction, and many there be which go in there at." Which gate will you choose when a boyfriend,
family, friends, co-workers or anyone who walks in darkness entice you to do
what doesn't glorify God? If you don't
set boundaries for your life someone else will.
My Lord my God, I come boldly to your throne in spirit to
ask in prayer that forgiveness of sins is rendered to all who ask upon reading
this blog. Your word says that no good
thing will you withhold from them that walk uprightly. May your Son, Jesus Christ, lead us as we do
your will. Please give us discernment of
your Holy Spirit and a shield of faith to withstand the fiery darts of the
enemy. I command victory in our lives over
the lusts of this world in the name of Jesus.
Your word didn't say a weapon wouldn't be formed against us, but it did
say it shall not prosper. Don't let us
get weak when temptation comes but make us aware of the way of escape you have
promised. I thank you for prosperity,
peace, purpose, a spiritual mate and divine health as we journey thru life. We love you and trust you a trillion
percent. Give my words life Lord that
they may go forth to accomplish what they have been spoken to accomplish for
your name's sake. I offer thanks as I
make my petitions known to you by the power and authority that is in the name
of Jesus. Amen.
